LOVE · RELATIONSHIP · PERSONAL ESSAY
A personal essay on love across borders, quiet promises, and what it truly means to cherish someone.
By HUSAIN AFRICA·Love & Relationships·5 min read
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Introduction
Recently, I came across an Instagram post that stayed with me longer than I expected. The caption was simple: “A woman is like a flower, cherish her.”
In that post, the writer shared a real story of a girl who got married and moved to Mombasa from India. She left behind her family, her comfort, her food, and her familiar life — stepping suddenly into a completely new world. What made the story special was not the change itself, but the way her husband stood by her. He understood her loneliness, her adjustment struggles, and her emotional distance from everything she had once called home. He didn’t just bring her into a new life — he made sure she felt at home in it.
That story deeply inspired me, because it reminded me of my own life in a very personal way.
Our Journey
I belong to India, and my wife belongs to Pakistan. We met through a social platform — almost by coincidence — but what started casually slowly turned into something very real. We talked for almost two years, sharing our thoughts and lives and slowly building a trust neither of us had expected at the beginning.
Eventually, we reached a point where things became very clear between us. I told her that if I ever received a visa to visit Pakistan, I would not return from that decision without certainty. Either we take this forward seriously, or we stop right there. There was no middle path.
“Chatti ma likhayu hase toh emaj thase.”
A belief my father often shared with my mother — that a child’s destiny is written on the sixth day after birth, during the naming ceremony. If something is meant to happen, it will happen.
By the grace of God, everything aligned. And today, we are married and living a happy life together.
“A flower doesn’t only need admiration. It needs presence, patience, and someone who understands its silence.”
Understanding Love
They say, “a woman is like a flower — cherish her.” And over the years, I have come to understand that in a much deeper way.
A flower doesn’t only need admiration. It needs presence, patience, protection, and someone who understands its silence, its moods, its seasons, and its quiet strength.
It has been ten years with my wife now. Different countries, different cultures — she is from Pakistan, and I am from India. The world may see borders, differences, and distance, but in our lives, those things never became barriers.
From the very beginning, I made a quiet promise that she would never feel alone with me. Not physically, not emotionally, not even in her thoughts.
“Real love is not built on big words or dramatic moments. It is built in small, everyday things — in understanding silence, and in choosing each other, again and again.”
Somewhere along the journey, I began to understand her more deeply, and she began to understand me even better. That is when love became a bond — not just a feeling.
Conclusion
She is not just someone I cherish. She is someone I respect, someone I learn from, someone who completes parts of me I didn’t even know were missing.
A flower blooms only when it feels safe. And if she has bloomed all these years, it means something was done right.
But the truth is — she has given me just as much, if not more.
So no, she is not just a flower to be cherished. She is my partner, my peace, my strength.
And after ten years… I still choose her, every single day. ❤️
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Each and every word you wrote is true.
I truly feel lucky that I found you in this life. You gave me far more than I ever expected, not only as a husband, but as a companion, a protector, and a best friend.
You stood for me when it mattered. You understood me when I could not explain myself. You never made me feel like I left my home behind, instead, you became my home.
People say a flower needs to be cherished, but a flower does not bloom on its own. It needs time, water, sunlight, care, patience, and protection. In the same way, you took care of every little thing in my life with love and sincerity. You kept me like a rose in your garden, protected, valued, and loved.
Through all these years, you never let me feel alone. You supported me emotionally, spiritually, and personally. Even in my Hifz journey, you encouraged me, motivated me, and stood beside me with patience and understanding. Your support gave me strength on days when I felt weak.
What makes our relationship beautiful is not only love, but the peace and respect we have for each other. We grew together, learned together, and faced every season of life together.
After all these years, I still thank Allah for bringing us together despite borders, distance, and differences. Some relationships are written by destiny, and I truly believe ours was one of them.
You cherished me like a flower, but in truth, you became the reason I bloomed. ❤️
“Beautifully said, A woman truly is like a flower 🌸 she brings beauty, warmth, strength, and life wherever she blooms. Cherishing and respecting her should never be optional.
“Beautifully written blog! The comparison of women to flowers perfectly highlights their strength, grace, and importance. Truly meaningful and inspiring.”
Very much TRUE, respect her not less than mother and love and fragrance will be felt.
how you have become an author with deep meaning?
Its true the more you cherish the flower the more beauty you will only feel. the saying is true “What You reap what you sow”.
Very well written heart warming and beautifully explained regarding women .
Truly amazing if everyone understands this journey of a girl and her transformation than life becomes too easy. Leaving everything behind when we step into a new world and if the one for whom we are there holds us tight definitely it is the best start without any compromise or guilt.
Beautifully penned! The love should be unconditional. Love knows no boundaries it is unconditional and if committed stay always there for one you love. May Allah bless you both with love and peace.
Beautifully written not with pen, but with heart, the depth in every word is felt, excellent, keep up the good work
Very true woman is like a flower, very well written and thoughtful message for all.